Habits
can make or break love and
relationships. Habits form over the
years, and some habits are good, while others are disturbing. Everyday
a person seeks out relationships, but as the day’s progress
and
standards are lower, frustration becomes the focus of a long journey.
As a writer, I communicate with people all over the world. Many of
people join chat rooms believing the right person will come their way.
Once in the chat room, they soon learn that the Internet is where games
are frequently to main goal of the many abroad, thus frustration sets
in again.
Sexual
transmitted diseases (STD) have put the breaks on love and
relationship. Although few continue to join in and out of relationship
searching for their soul mate, the breaks are on. Throughout the
decades people have spread them self around like germs, participating
in sexual relationships with the intent of leaving the person behind.
Women at one time were less reluctant to have multiple partners, but as
the days, progressed women too joined the bandwagon called
promiscuousness.
Some
relationships start with one partner believing that the other mate will
change over time once love falls into place. People have started
relationships with drug addicts, alcoholics, promiscuous persons and so
forth, believing that they had the ability to change the
person’s
habit. As the relationship progresses the mate with intentions of
changing the other soon learns that changes are not happening. Thus,
intention plays a part in how a relationship works. If the couples are
out to change the other, more than likely the relationship will fail.
Intentions
are important, since if the best of intentions does not exist, thus
harm will be the outcome. Therefore, couples should evaluate their
intentions when joining in relationship and love. The couple should
also take the time to get to know each other before engaging in sex or
commitments. When the two take the time to learn each other’s
behavior and habits they can determine if love could develop between
the two of them. If the habits are tolerable, thus a relationship is
possible, however if the habits are problematic, only trouble will
incur, since harmful intentions exist. The person may not feel as
though harmful intentions exist, since the habit covers the
mind’s ability to think logically.
If
the person has alcohol and/or drug problems, an agreement has to take
place before the person is capable of delivering a healthy
relationship. The person must first admit a problem exists and learn to
accept that a disease is controlling the life. Once acceptance is in
place, the person must take the steps to recovering from the disease.
Throughout the procedure of seeking and getting help, the person must
come to terms with self and learn to love self before he/she is capable
of giving love to someone else. The person must also have support and
try hard to meet the demands of quitting the habit that controls
his/her life. The process can take months or years for recovery,
however the time is nothing compared to the results the person will
experience when alcohol is no longer controlling the life. Thus, the
person can then seek out, searching for love and relationship. Still,
the relationship sought out should include an individual willing to
provide emotional support, since relapse could occur.
At
what time you are searching for love and relationship, keeping aware is
essential to avoid letdowns. When a person is aware of what he/she is
searching for, thus good results often follow. Therefore, we see that a
healthy relationship starts when both parties have a sense of who, they
are and what they are searching for in love and relationships.
Love
and relationships will continue throughout our existence. Habits will
also play a part in relationships, thus learning each other’s
habits before intimately joining is smart, since you will know if the
person is right for you. Sometimes relationships develop and each other
learnt the other’s habits, but as the year’s
progress, the
habits become frustrating. On this note, we must understand effective
communication, since obviously there is a breakdown in the
relationship.
