Forgiveness
is part of the tools
needed in relationships to make love
work. Forgiveness is letting your mate know that you realize they are
human and will make mistakes.
When
a person lacks the ability to forgive in relationships, it often causes
problems along the way. Many relationships fall apart since one partner
may say I forgive you, while showing behaviors that say otherwise. When
a person forgives, they let go of the thinking that triggers the
emotions repeatedly and continue their relationship without throwing
the mistake up in the partners face later down the road.
Some
people use mistakes as a tool to control the mate down the road. Thus,
they will accumulate the mistakes and only use them when the moment
arises to benefit the person. Thus, this is only adding fire to the
flames already burning hot in the crevices of the minds emotions.
Accumulating
mistakes to use as a weapon is not showing regard for the mate.
Although the mate made a mistake, (depends on the mistake), it does not
mean the mate does not have love for his/her partner.
Mistakes
are a part of life, and when a person learns from their mistakes, it
illustrates loyalty and commitment. Examples of mistakes made in
relationship can help you to appreciate humanity and love.
Men
often complain about their mates making them sleep on the couch, or
denying them of intimacy because of mistakes made. Examine this idea
closely and tell me what you see?
First,
the mate is using sex as a weapon to control the mate. The mate is also
going against the commitment in the relationship. What can a person
possibly do so wrong that makes the mate say you are sleeping on the
couch tonight, or else you are not getting it tonight? Did the mate
commit adultery? If so, thus sleeping on the couch or denying the
partner of sex is appropriate. Did the mate abuse the partner, by
striking at the person physically? If so, getting out of the
relationship is smarter than denying. Did the mate come home and slouch
in front of the television again without regarding the partner?
Now
we can review and examining the situation to determine if denying is
appropriate. If your mate comes home each day and slouches in front of
the television, thus denying is not the solution to fix the problem.
Rather, someone must open the channels of communication to find a
solution and resolve the problem. Willingness, consideration, openness,
and other elements are essential on both parties’ behalf to
work
through this situation. Denying the partner, will only lead to bigger
problems down the road? If the partner feels neglected, or denied
ongoing, thus eventually the human needs to feel needed, wanted and
fulfilled will escalate to possible relations outside of the
relationship.
The partner
may
fail to see that he/she too were neglectful in the relationship and act
out of emotions, thus committing the ultimate sin that issues divorce.
Although
this happens in relationships, some fail even though one party never
denies the mate, and works hard to uphold their commitment to the
partner. Some mates commit adultery, since the ultimate reason for
relationship is wanton, or desire. If the soul mate is upholding their
commitment and the partner commits adultery, thus the person may have
reasons in mind, or behaviors and habit that lead up to the act.
If
the partner is viewing, have inappropriate materials, or other
influences sparking the emotions and thoughts, thus the person more
likely than not will slip along the path of love. When a person feeds
the mind garbage, thus garbage will come out along the path, regardless
of the person’s way of life. Almost any incident when a
person
fed the mind with garbage, thus the person slipped along the way. The
person will violate the beliefs, traditions, standards, and commitment
of others for selfish gain, thus telling the mate you mean nothing to
me.
If you are considering
love
and relationship, you may want to take the time to ask your self what
you expect from a relationship, and what you will not tolerate in a
relationship.
